Jealousy is the fear of losing. Ask yourself why you are afraid of him (her) to lose? The answer is obvious: either you doubt in his (her) feelings for you, or not confident in its attractiveness, sexuality, etc. probably should start with these issues!
Trust without verifying!
Jealousy is the uncertainty in yourself and your partner. Learn to trust him, because trust is one of the main components of love. How much would we have said that we are the best of all, we do not believe, if you don't trust yourself. Even if everything is great, each of us will find a way to poison the lives of yourself and a loved one (or favorite). This is unbearable. It is unknown how long he (she) is enough strength to endure. Every day to prove that you're not a camel is exhausting and humiliating. Fear destroys everything. The fear of losing, sooner or later, creates a real loss in our lives. What are we afraid of, and attract. But everything is in our hands. Now we know what might be the consequences. Is this not a reason to kill yourself jealousy? Don't give her any chances, NIP all thoughts about it, switch to something positive – and you will win. I believe in you!
More confidence
We have jealousy when we feel in ourselves insecurity, while others see the rivals. Find the cause of self-doubt and fix it. Although quite often this is not required. After all, if a person with you, whether it is a confirmation of your exclusivity in his (her) eyes? So jealousy is pointless. Love yourself. Respect yourself. Believe in what you are not worse than those revnuete. You are extraordinary, and completely impossible to find a decent replacement. Understand that only the weak jealous! You are beautiful, smart, you are the best! And most importantly, you love him and give him the incomparable delight. And if he changes you to someone, then it is not worthy of you!
Without property rights.
Jealousy is a disease characterized by bit overbearing there too, you must get rid of him. Ownership in market relations. Love and power are incompatible. Like for real! Without selfishness, without desire to possess. Just love the person with all your heart, respect him and his freedom. Ownership of the people! You are very different, and it is your own!
Make your life easier!
Loving yourself is the most important thing! Because love must give pleasure, not permanent, like "who is this?", "who do you have (had)?", "whose is this?". Why? In the life of enough other problems. Never look in his zagašniki. When are you going to do, ask him to release all the pockets, live according to the principle "less you know is better sleep". Occupy yourself with interesting cases evolve to not getting stupid thoughts. Because jealousy situation does not change, but the nervous breakdown easily can earn. You have to be self-sufficient, independent of his partner, test it painful affection and fear of losing it. Be forgiving, tolerant and tolerant, nevzyskatel′nymi and netrebovatel′nymi. But in any case not been forgiving and insults. They humiliate your human dignity and allow neblagorodnomu partners establish themselves at your expense. It's not love, it is consumerism! But you should not be treating the man. And it will be as in the anecdote. Today, Marusya Duborezova gave her husband a great personal pleasure! It allowed him to postpone digging backyard tomorrow. And now about the prevention of conflicts. If we try to rehabilitate someone, instead of working on ourselves, we put ourselves in a position of superiority over others. And this is very subjective and selfish approach, because in the Union of man and woman, both sides are equal. In such cases, it makes sense to do them and sort out priorities. What is for you the greatest value? Who are you most like? What you want from the relationship? Conflicts born of misunderstanding and false expectations of love, loving Union. The biggest selfishness and an irreparable mistake to expect relations benefits for themselves. Everyone has his own expectations, which tend not to justified and produce a variety of conflicts. We want and demand a partner love and respect, while sometimes it unselfishly give of their own. We don't know how to be happy, to accumulate problems do not work over their negative qualities. The secret of happiness is to give the other, and waive, to see positive qualities in each other and appreciate them, be able to forgive shortcomings. Relations need to learn, maintain their love, not selfishness, it will help successfully prevent any conflicts. And a couple of words about sensitivity, tact and mutual respect. Sensitivity is the responsiveness, participation, attention, cordiality; impressionability, sensitivity, vigilance, sensitivity, empathy, warmth, sočuvstvennost′, sophistication, depth, subtlety. Tact is a sense of proportion, podskazyvaûŝee man that is suitable in the circumstances and that is not what you say or do, and in what form, what not to say or do. Tact is respect for others, respect others ' opinions, respect for others, serenity, self-control, the ability to remain calm in any situation.
Tactful person:
- never stresses its superiority; does not impose his opinion and taste; not to profane, unequivocal judgement, such as "rubbish" and "nonsense", "trash" (remember, not do you these words in conversations, say on fashion, on contemporary music and literature?); in talking with people who have some kind of bodily weakness, avoids anything that might remind them of this. never talks about the incident tragic event to not cause people have memories; does not apply to purely personal relationships, especially strangers; does not read someone else's mail, eavesdrop, no peeks in the window (and if accidentally witnessed a scene, a conversation not intended for outsiders, never allow myself to make this heritage of others); never finds any relations in the presence of outsiders; do not put the other person in an awkward position, will pretend not to notice gaffes (remember, as a. p. Chekhov, in a letter to his brother wrote: "a good education is not that you do not you cry sauce on cloth, and that you do not notice it if it will make someone else"); He can spare the pride and dignity of other people; We suffer the disadvantages and weaknesses of others. To be with all the sensitive and tactful enough to be generous, to grow his immortal soul to such magnitude that will respect the feelings of the partner and cause a response. Don't demand respect, don't ask for it, namely, the call automatically, subconsciously. Accordingly, in the process of growth you finally get rid of the desire to reform and learn to accept it for what it is. And not have to defend their right to remain itself. All the surrounding will accept it unconditionally.
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